Saturday, May 19, 2018

A Perpetual Kinship - My Mom

Proverbs 1:8-9
Hear, my son, your father’s instruction
And do not forsake your mother’s teaching;
Indeed, they are a graceful wreath to your head
And ornaments about your neck.

My Mom and I are very different. She's extroverted, I'm introverted. She's Type B, and I'm more Type A. She's a raincoat - letting insults roll right off of her like drops of rain. I'm a sponge - soaking in every word said to me and hurt by the smallest of offenses.

Because of our many difference, I have not always listened to the wise advice given in the verse above. I haven't always thought of my mother's teachings as a "graceful wreath" or "ornaments about my neck." I haven't considered them beautiful and priceless.

In my pride, I have often thought of my own "teachings" and philosophies as valuable and my own way of thinking as superior. 

Proverbs 6:20-21
My son, observe the commandment of your father
And do not forsake the teaching of your mother;
Bind them continually on your heart;
Tie them around your neck.

Despite the fact that my Mom has lived 2 1/2 decades longer than me and exemplified a spiritually healthy lifestyle, I've doubted her judgment. I think there's so many verses in Proverbs dedicated to this concept of listening to parents because it just does not come naturally.

Especially during my teenage and early adulthood years, I didn't take these verses to heart. It took me quite a while to get to get to the point of "binding" my Mom's teaching on my heart. To value her words. To listen to her instruction. How much stress and exhaustion I could have saved myself if I would've just listened to her!

In no way is my Mom perfect. We have lived past many hurts and mistakes. But what I am saying is that it would be totally hypocritically of me to let those imperfections outweigh the many positive attributes she exhibits daily. Because in reality, her selfless heart and pure motives outweigh her imperfections.

Proverbs 31:28-29
Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
“Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”

What is so incredible is that no matter how much I act like I know better than her, no matter how many times I discredit her own experience and wisdom and think of my own ways as better, she never lords it over me when I admit she was right. She always handles it with such a humble grace in a manner that uplifts rather than humiliates me. More times that I can count she has had every right to tell me, "I told you so" and make me feel utterly dumb. But she doesn't. Instead, she just listens and smiles and expresses her desire for my best. 

Her gentle presence and continual help assure me that no matter how much I take her for granted, she will always be here. My mother is one of kind.

I desperately hope to fulfill my calling of Proverbs 31:28, to rise up and bless her. Because everyday she goes above and beyond in motherhood. 

I only have 2 tattoos, and one of them is dedicated to my Mom:
Mine on the left, my mom's on the right. Hers is the only tattoo she has and claims she ever will get. 

The infinity heart design is fairly self-explanatory in symbolizing the never-ending love between us as mother and daughter. The tiara on the lower part of the tattoo is for the meaning of my name - princess. And the rose is for my mom's namesake. Purple is the predominant color simply because that's both of our favorite color. 

Accepting Christ's gift of salvation gives me the hope of eternal life once this earthly life ends, and I'm so excited that I get to have eternity to share with my mom. I'm proud to honor our perpetual kinship with a permanent marking that is a tattoo. 

A week after Mother's Day, I'm joining other bloggers in celebrating mothers and mother figures. Check out their posts by clicking the pictures below. 

1 comment :

  1. So beautiful! You're writing shows wisdom maturity and Grace. I know that you are a blessing in each other's lives. And as a mother of a young adult, this gives me great insight. I can totally relate to how the enemy uses simple and pure personality differences to drive a wedge between us in relationships that are intended to be edifying. And through the Holy Spirit we mature and grow in appreciation and insight. Thanks be to our Lord. Please excuse typos. Using speech to text.